Hello Fans, Friends, and Fellow Fanatics,
In light of the national romantic event which causes couples to show their love and singles to disappear into hiding, I wish to discuss a new topic not normally in my writing repertoire. The elegant and simple emotions of Valentine’s Day and Romance portrayed in an exaggerated mess that is the Media and modern Television. Looking at the media driven society of today, what do you notice is not only a big topic, but a massive need in our secular world? While clearly present in every major drama and reality TV show, it is something I believe to be so misinterpreted and completely off track, that people often times go to outlandish measures to secure what they seek to call a “Stable Relationship”. A television show that embodies the distinguished “contradiction” to true passion, romance and love, is the show many of you know as the bachelor.
So, as stated in my title, “Why should The Bachelor be Discontinued”? Well here are 5 reasons why I think it should.
1. It’s too unrealistic, Fake, and Artificial!
This show is Not an accurate description of an everyday life and true love connections. People put it on a pedestal and set their expectations, not too high as most argue, but in the completely wrong direction! You can’t force love and turning it into a game show destroys the integrity of those involved. Though real people are involved, just Think for a moment! Your entire relationship, or at least the beginning of it is on Television. Don’t tell me that the producers aren’t pulling stings behind the scenes to create drama! Ratings and viewers continue the show’s funding and Drama achieves that, not a resulting successful relationship. Putting it into perspective, how many average people recognize who won the Super Bowl 10 years ago as opposed to the number who know that there IS a Super Bowl each year?
2. It’s exaggerated emotional moments that are hoped to spark a connection!
Shouldn’t this statement be the other way around? Why do you need outlandishly over the top experiences with 10+ females or guys, in order to fall in love? Is that even love at all? What happens when the elaborate dates and adventures are over and you’ve torn not only your personal integrity apart making out with multiple women(speaking to guys specifically), but return to a simpler life Not funded by a million dollar television program? I assume that it would be similar to relationships established from traumatic experiences. They don’t last! Just check the history records of all of the relationships spurred from the show. Though there are a lucky few, as most ideas good or bad have successes, there still are more broken hearts as a result.
3. What happens to the 20+ ‘other’ girls/guys after the show?
Say for instance that the relationship IS successful and a happy ending is in the future for the two of them who stand together at the end. What about the 20+ broken hearts that go back to their lives with crushed self esteem, crushed spirits, and a dimmer outlook on life and love. Especially once it gets to the “Top” 6 girls/guys? They spend a great deal of time fighting for one man or woman to be rejected–often harshly and more often with the humiliation of it forever being remembered in a dramatically edited episode they avoid the rest of their life if they can. Would you want to be known as the Silver medalist in The Bachelor? The Other girl? There isn’t one! Sorry. We as the audience only see as far as the tears as they leave and the shallow interview in the limo that hides the true emotional damage that has been done.
4. The Show Changes You. Digression to Playboy Manipulator.
Speaking to someone who goes on that show who I don’t doubt start off with a secular world view. Do you get bonus points for playing with the hearts of multiple women? Does it bring you true happiness to take advantage of them in that way? In my opinion, this show gives free will to one man over the emotions of multiple women. This show embodies the values or lack of values that the world now believes to be truth. The women may be strong personalities and hold on to their morals and virtues, but in the end, they fall and feel like they need to change themselves into these physical satisfaction dependent messes that cry and feel inadequate or unsatisfied in themselves. This is NOT HOW TO TREAT A WOMAN! It is taking advantage of someone that is supposed to be your partner in life. A relationship is a valuable connection that should be cherished and protected, respected and Christ driven! This show is an abomination of that virtue and true love whether you are Christian or not. It makes me sick to think that society has gotten to this level.
5. What Morals are you Teaching the Younger Generation?
Remember those days when you saw relationships that filled you with hope? Where you couldn’t doubt for a second that there was no other woman in a man’s life and aside from God, she was his life, a jewel that he would do or give anything for or to protect. The 2000 released film “Frequency” has a great representation of this and the affect that it can have on a child. Dennis Quaid and Elizabeth Mitchell as Frank and Julia Sullivan have one of those relationships. Where did television like that disappear to? Television with substance? Sure everyone has issues and fantastical relationships are often unlikely, but where are the relationships that show that people can fight through issues ‘Together’ and come out stronger? The Bachelor leaves a sour taste in my mouth because people actually believe that relationships can be formed around a physical connection. It is temporary people and so is this life! How do you want to be remembered? I heard the latest “Bachelor” Juan Pablo state that he didn’t want his Daughter to see him kissing or being intimate with many women. He then followed the statement with a subtle “I’ve already kissed 6 women already”. That to me is a clear boast of the absence of abstinence. Is that how you want the younger generation to view love?
“The Bachelor” show is about creating surrealistic experiences based solely on exaggerated worldly values. They spread thin the essence of true beauty in relationship and love to the point where it is “Lust” driven and not what it was intended to be. What love is, doesn’t exist in that show. There are fragments of fantasized romance and emotional wormholes that people are drawn into on the journey that leads only to sorrow and pain. But that is the way that it goes. There is no peace or happiness when a relationship is based on those feeble reasons.
So I say Love! Live! And Believe in something greater this Valentine’s Day! Take the person next to you that you have spent the day with and honor her. Respect her. Cherish her! Get away from this backwards world of love and what the Media tells you is a happy relationship and realize your true happiness. Go back to the start and find ways to make your relationship different from the world!
And for you singles out there waiting for love. Remember that you don’t have to be anyone but yourself. Nor do you have to go looking for love. It will find you when the time is right. It is difficult, but the wait is always worth it.
-There is true hope and passion, guidance and direction, peace and power that The Lord brings to a relationship!
Happy Valentine’s Day!
-Gearbendr Signing Out